A Catholic Confession Guide for Returning or New Converts

 

If you’re preparing for your first confession as a Catholic convert or returning to the sacrament after many years, you might feel a mix of anxiety, uncertainty, and hope. That’s normal.

But here’s the truth: confession is not meant to shame you—it’s meant to free you. It’s a sacrament of mercy, not a performance.

Let’s walk through what confession actually is, what to expect, and how to approach it with confidence.

1. What Confession Is (And What It’s Not)

Confession (also called Reconciliation) is the sacrament where we acknowledge our sins before God and receive forgiveness through the priest, who acts in the person of Christ.

It is not:

• An interrogation
• A list of failures
• A spiritual performance

It is:

• A healing conversation with God
• A return to grace
• A visible, tangible experience of God’s mercy

The priest isn’t there to judge you. He’s there to extend the Father’s love and absolution. He’s probably heard it all before—and then some.

2. Preparing with an Examination of Conscience

Before you go to confession, it’s helpful to spend a little time reflecting. An Examination of Conscience is a prayerful way to review your thoughts, actions, and habits in light of God’s love.

You can use:

• A 10 Commandments-based guide
• The Beatitudes
• A life-stage specific reflection (young adult, parent, etc.)

Tip: Write your reflections down if it helps you stay focused. If you’re nervous, bring your notes with you.

Coming soon: A printable Examination of Conscience for converts will be available in our Ko-Fi store.

3. What to Expect During the Sacrament

Every parish is a little different, but here’s the typical format:

• You may enter a confessional (behind a screen) or meet face-to-face in a private space
• The priest begins with a greeting and blessing
• You start by saying:
  "Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. This is my first confession." (or say how long it’s been)
• Confess your sins simply and honestly
• The priest may offer a bit of counsel or encouragement
• You’ll pray an Act of Contrition (he can help if you forget)
• The priest gives you a penance and says the words of absolution

When he says, "I absolve you," your sins are truly, completely forgiven.

4. What to Say If You Feel Awkward or Forgetful

Don’t worry if you freeze up. Just be honest. You can say:

• “I don’t remember how to do this.”
• “I’m nervous. Can you guide me?”
• “This is my first time.”

Priests are trained for this. Many of them find joy in helping people return after a long absence or come for the first time.

Also: God already knows. You’re not surprising Him. You’re bringing it to light so He can heal it.

5. After Confession: How It Feels

You might feel emotional. You might feel peaceful. You might not feel anything at all.

All of that is normal.

But spiritually, something real has happened:

• Your soul has been restored to grace
• You’re fully forgiven
• Nothing separates you from the love of God

You don’t have to earn your way back into God’s heart. You were never out of it. Confession simply clears the path.

Conclusion: You Are Not Alone

Every saint has needed confession. Every Catholic who loves the Lord has had to admit their weakness. This is how we grow.

Come as you are. Be honest. Let mercy in.

CTA: Want a simple printable to walk you through the sacrament? Download our Catholic Confession Guide for Converts (coming soon).